The Healing Stage
For me, healing is about noticing the patterns that have been in place since I was very young and reconciling how I was supposed to act with how I truly felt, in a way that allows me to move forward without projecting my unconscious biases onto others. It’s about finding confidence in myself and learning to trust myself to make the decisions that are right for me.
If not now, then when? (Part 2)
I’ve learned to listen more, to slow down and honour what my body feels, for it is an act of self-care that is necessary for perspective. Interestingly, it can sometimes be overtaken by a feeling of lethargy that makes you ask if you are not doing enough. Sometimes that feeling is valid, but as the feeling persists, it sometimes makes me wonder if there isn’t another message being whispered, saying that something else is needed
What is FIRE?
For a long time, I had seen life as a game and I was Player One. All of my choices and actions would build experience in specific skill trees that “leveled” me up so that I could complete objectives and “quests,” ultimately unlocking new levels and better adventures. But, like in any game, player one always needs to remember:
What is the main storyline, or what is the primary quest of this life?
If not now, then when?
If not now, then when?
Tell yourself that every day, like a Mantra you whisper in your mind whenever you ask yourself if you should suppress the superhero you see and know yourself to be in your mind. And make no mistake you are one.
It’s all the small actions you take every day to lift yourself out of your hardships, to breathe life into the reality you’ve created for yourself, to bring moments of joy to the people who cross your path. To create, to make, to live, to exude greatness in all moments of your life, both big and small.
Why Attraction is Choice
We are capable of choice and it’s a responsibility that we rarely hold ourselves accountable for. Choose to live, choose to die. Choose to stay in, choose to go out. Choose to hate, choose to love. Choose to make life a great adventure or choose to let it fall flat. Choose, choose, choose. I’ve said choose so many times I almost feel like I’m about to board a train. And what is love, if not a train that we can board or alight at many stations.
What kind of ticket will you buy?
Love or Just in Love With it?
Ask yourself whether what you’re looking for is a grand experience or someone to pass the time. Is it out of longing or out of confidence? Are you confident in who you are or aren’t you? These aren’t hard to answer, but it’s bloody difficult to get to the answer you need.
It’s the difference between Love and Ego.
It’s the difference between being Alone and being Lonely.
Accepting the Expiration Date
As a result, I live by the rule of the expiration date: the understanding that there is a fixed time limit that cannot or should not be exceeded. At some point, it will become necessary to end things.
Regardless of good times, strong connections or, of course, love, it is understood between both parties that things will end. It's not a cold process. It's something that comes from understanding one another, the environment, the situation and the moment in time. It's painful, certainly, but it's something that is almost necessary to maintain sanity.
You need to embrace rejection, seriously. (Updated)
Every time I have made the decision to move forward, in success or failure, I have learned and experienced more joy than I could have ever dreamed of than if I had made the choice to make no choice at all.
And so my observation is this. Embrace rejection. Embrace it.
Hearing the truth about the one who got away
In the meantime, you tell yourself whatever story you need to, that you can hold onto, that you can build your hopes on, with the idea that maybe over time, or one day, you can change their mind and they will see the light at last… but still the truth remains the same: they just aren’t as invested in the same future that you see.
Acceptance
In accepting the lessons we’re meant to, in the time we’re meant to, we give ourselves permission to rise to the worth we always believed ourselves to be and that raging storm that strips away at our dignity and self-worth turns into a cleansing rain.
In our pain, we begin to learn and we slowly begin to wash off the moss and the mold of our insecurities that once ate away at us, giving way to new blessings and a purer, healthier love.
You’re Alone, and that’s okay (updated)
Ultimately, you are the pioneer of your life.
You are the protagonist of your adventure.
Take the time to find out who you are and what you love. Learn about your flaws and for all the ones you might have, learn to love each of them.
They are you.