Control
Being able to let go of something, in part, comes from being able to let go of Control. It’s accepting that there are some things that you just can’t control, no matter how much you want or try to.
To me, the idea of not being in control of something, of my destiny, is absolutely terrifying.
If not now, then when? (Part 2)
I’ve learned to listen more, to slow down and honour what my body feels, for it is an act of self-care that is necessary for perspective. Interestingly, it can sometimes be overtaken by a feeling of lethargy that makes you ask if you are not doing enough. Sometimes that feeling is valid, but as the feeling persists, it sometimes makes me wonder if there isn’t another message being whispered, saying that something else is needed
Accepting the Expiration Date
As a result, I live by the rule of the expiration date: the understanding that there is a fixed time limit that cannot or should not be exceeded. At some point, it will become necessary to end things.
Regardless of good times, strong connections or, of course, love, it is understood between both parties that things will end. It's not a cold process. It's something that comes from understanding one another, the environment, the situation and the moment in time. It's painful, certainly, but it's something that is almost necessary to maintain sanity.
You need to embrace rejection, seriously. (Updated)
Every time I have made the decision to move forward, in success or failure, I have learned and experienced more joy than I could have ever dreamed of than if I had made the choice to make no choice at all.
And so my observation is this. Embrace rejection. Embrace it.
Hearing the truth about the one who got away
In the meantime, you tell yourself whatever story you need to, that you can hold onto, that you can build your hopes on, with the idea that maybe over time, or one day, you can change their mind and they will see the light at last… but still the truth remains the same: they just aren’t as invested in the same future that you see.